- Sep 11, 2021
- in Life
The Ultimate Relationship Goal
So many factors affect to maintain a good relationship.
But out of everything, one of the main factors is that coming to an equilibrium with your partner. This is not only important to maintain a relationship but also to start a relationship even at the very beginning. Of course, there can be numerous reasons that one could be attracted to another. But in the long run, much more should be added to it.
It’s all about coming to a mid point where both of your opinions and views are respected. This is not as easy as it seems because you should have a big heart to do that. You should get rid of your ego. You should be ready to do some sacrifices and most importantly you have to trust your partner. And of course there should be a good understanding between you two.
You might think “what if I’m the only one who does sacrifices and being flexible with my habits and views of life?” Then again you will be coming to the main point which is about equilibrium. If it’s only you, then there won’t be a balance in your relationship. But always remember, there should be a starting point. Once you start to show some flexibility, your partner will also do the same with time, if he or she is sensitive enough to value you and understand you.
I’m not trying to say that if your partner has some toxic qualities or mean opinions and views regarding certain things , you too should agree with them or support them. You don’t have to degrade your morals. What I need to highlight is that if you want to convince them about something or if you really need them in your life and if you want to give a chance to your relationship, then being somewhat flexible with your policies and opinions would be of great help. I know it’s a bit of a complicated story.
Let me explain you further. Imagine if you are a very messy person and your partner is a person who needs everything to be neat and tidy. So just because of this reason, will you let your relationship fall apart one day? You might tolerate it for a few days but how will you tolerate it for the rest of your life?
The simple answer is that if the messy one can adjust a little to become tidy then it could be somewhat easier for the other person. He or she might not be 100% tidy and neat as the other one, but at least if that person can come to a 50% point, it would be a great deal. And when the other one gets convinced by your effort , they too will give their 50% to tolerate your little messy behaviors. That way both comes to an equilibrium where the two can tolerate each other. I hope that the example was clear.
This is a very simple scenario but when it comes to deeper things in your relationship , the same theory will work. Trying to make the other one 100% free of mess won’t be practical. Being too arrogant and sticking firmly into your policies and opinions won’t ease your problems.
Understand your partner too and see if there’s anything you could do to make things work out. Always try to be flexible in a good way. So for a healthy relationship, always give your 50%. That will help you to have a good relationship. Even after that if you feel like your partner doesn’t value you , then there’s no point in being in that relationship.
And remember, there can be certain days where your partner will need your love and affection more than any other day. In those times you may have to give more than 50%. If you can’t go that extra mile when your partner needs you the most, then you can’t call it a beautiful relationship.
I hope that this gave some tips for you to have a happy relationship with your loved one!